Second, if true love is to be cultivated eventually within the covenant of marriage, the couple needs to begin to demonstrate the selfless, sacrificial, supernatural and efficacious nature of love—in proper measures.
Thus, selfishness in light of what Christ did for us must continually be eradicated in a dating relationship. Each person must ever be looking to Jesus and the Cross in order to place the other person’s needs and desires above their own. There must be a Christ-like mentality of absorbing more pain then one inflicts in the relationship. One must be thinking of how much one can serve and give to the person for the primary motivation of looking to that person’s highest interest instead of attempting to focus on what one is getting out of the relationship.